Can't change status for other side

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tmo and I have started a PbEM game of FitS.  We've hit a frustration right away.  I took the Soviets and now I can't adjust his counters.  I couldn't set up his OB, I can't change to Dis/DEM/Elim for combat results.  I could switch to Solo to do it, and that kind of defeats the purpose of signing in as Axis or Allies in the 1st place.

Is there a way to let people affect the other side when playing as one side?

In order to be able to manipulate both sides' counters, you must be able to see both sides' counters. This eliminates hidden units and hiding unspotted units.

My biggest complaint about PG is that AT guns are mostly useless because they can't hide in solo play.

Vassal is designed to rigorously enforce blindness. If you're playing PBEM, you'll either need to end a logfile and send it back every time for minor status changes, or drop hidden units and both play "solo".